By your comment I have to say right from the beginning, no, you don’t know, the rules that is. The rules on a FWB are what you both agree to make them. I will say you were smart you at least started with some (confidentiality is a big one), many, particularly younger people don’t bother and things start getting very complicated with one blabbing around what is going on, putting the moves on your best friends, etc.
Even in a FWBthat I know will never result in a full relationship I will still cuddle and snuggle after to show them they are more than just a step up from jacking off and the intimacy we shared means something to me, but that’s me. Some guys are in their boots and heading for the door before the last grunt and with him showing you affection it shows he has some class.
You were friends, then you added the benefits. That can awaken deeper feelings that can blossom into love beyond friendship. It sounds like it may be happening for both of you (unless he is a player trying to hook you and be in his stable). So how you handle it from here I would suggest very delicately. I wouldn’t just blurt right out you are developing feelings for him. Even if he is as well it could scare him away.
I would approach it a little more subtly, like maybe start talking about your plans for the future in a whimsical manor; like, “Oh ya, I can’t wait for that house in the burbs with 2.3 children, a fenced in yard, 3 cats and a dog.” Maybe toss in how you want a traveling companion to see the world first, then watch his reaction. He may have the same dream and you just planted the seed.
If it doesn’t produce the desired effects realize that is one of the risks of a FWB’s and since it is not a fully committed relationship keep your eyes open for that one you want.
*I have been in a FWB and we mesh perfectly on one facet; we both like sex. We come close on one other, we are compassionate and like to help others, I say close because she is willing to do it for spiritual reasons, meaning free. I on the other hand want to get paid for what I do, doctors, clergy, humanitarians get paid, so should I, especially if I just saved a community 30 to 60 million dollars.
As far as everything else, fuggedaboutit, not even close. I want a full committed relationship where she wants to reach a spiritual level that sex is not needed. Not me, I hope to be cumming and going (out) at the same time. I like a nice house to live in, car to drive, steaks in the refrigerator; she could live in a tent and live on weeds because she’s a vegetarian but will eat jumbo chilled shrimp to appease me (to me a day isn’t complete if I haven’t eaten something with a face). Nothing wrong with that but a little boring for my tastes and I’ll be damned if I am going to take someone to https://peterluger.com/ in New York and watch them nibble on a salad while I am mouing down two pounds of USDA PRIME BEEF.
I pretty much believe in karma, what goes around comes around, but I’ve known some real prick pulling assholes that have lived a long, happy life so sometimes you need to speed it along a little to make sure justice is served.
I like a good war flick;
or a boxing match watching two guys piss-pound each other. She starts to almost cry and vomit at a six second glimpse of violence, but will watch a cooking show. In other words, we ain’t cut out for the long haul.
Things are winding down now, she’s fighting it but I’m pretty sure she is getting close to her goal and it is time to move on, however we both knew it would come someday but it has been awesome ride while it has lasted.